BHARAT BOOKING HOLIDAYS (INDIA) PVT.LTD. | Reviews

I have just completed tour of Manali, Delhi with the help of your company, the experience was pathetic. (From 7^th to 12^th June) Volvo journey from Delhi to Manali was my worst journey ever.

Recommendation: Please never select a package from Bharat Booking Holidays (India) Private Limited. They guys don’t even deserved to be in this profession. And I strongly say they are the worst of all the lot. Ms. Dharini (+91 92181-05636) you should quit the job.

Suggestion to Bharat Booking Holidays (India) Private Limited: Please open a Tea or coffee shop and stop this business, I believe you guys should be able to do it better. Also please gave job to Pradeep to serve to customer while keeping his mouth shut, also ask him to he looks more like a criminal and this is not the correct profession for him. Mr. Pradeep (+9192180-55636) you don’t deserve any job you better be a criminal.

Following is the details of my experience:

1.       Package Booking: we booked a package including the hotel, after we paid 50% amount we got the confirmation with correct hotel (Snow valley resort). Just 2 days before the travel we got an email with updated hotel, we said no to the updated hotel we were asked to understand their situation, after really a long fight they gave the confirmation of the same hotel but we were forced to change the room every day. This was designed package by Ms. Dharini (+91 92181-05636).

2.       Travel from Delhi to Manali : they booked us on the Leo Travels (Volvo), we were asked to reach the starting point (R.K Aashram Metro Statio) at 5:00PM. We were forced to stand in Delhi’s heat for 2 hours before bug actually reached the station. Post which we started the travel to Manali.

3.       Road journey: Delhi to Manali should take 12-14 hours by roan but this bus driver forgot the route and we end up reaching Manali after 18 hours.

4.       Hotel stay: hotel stay was amazing, it was a nice stay and we enjoyed the stay in the hotel.

5.       Daily Travel: daily travel was arranged by Bharat Bookings, day 1 we got the cab on time and we have local tour, day 2 was for Rohtang it was nice experience all thanks to cab driver (hari). Day 3 cab didn’t came after following up with Dhcab reached at 3:30PM arini we got the cab with a delay of 3 hrs and we had nice tour. Day 4 since we had to pay the rest amount (12000/-) we asked to send the cab at 2:00PM so that we can pay and then wanted to proceed delhi but on this last day cab reached at 3:30PM and we rushed to Volvo stand where we met the next player to the game called Mr. Pradeep (+9192180-55636).

6.       After reaching Volvo stand cab driver handed over to Pradeep for rest of the Suffering: he rushed us to bus stand as if our bus was about to leave, upon asking the bus number he said 4550 and I along with him started searching for the bus. I was able to find the bus after 30 mins (as it was parked at the very end of the ground). I came back and told him that I found the bus and we all started moving towards the bus.

7.       After reaching in front of the bus he (Pradeep) told him that bus will after 2 hrs i.e. at 7:00PM. As I was travelling with my daughter (3.5 years age) I requested Pradeep and bus driver to start the AC so that people can sit in the bus and be comfortable but nothing happened.

8.       In some time Pradeep asked me to handover remaining 12000/- which I gave him after confirmation talk with Dharini. While paying the money I again requested but he just took the money and said just wait for few minutes Bus will start, once again nothing happened and we were forced to stand in heat for 1.5 hours post which I again requested one more person (bus coordinator from Leo) and got the AC started. By this time I lost my temper and shouted on Pradeep on which (the same nice gentleman abused me and wanted to have a fight).

9.       Journey Back to Delhi: at around 7:30PM our last leg to Suffer started and we reached Delhi after 16 hours of long journey.

NOTE: I will post the same on my blog and share the same on my Facebook and will ask all my friend to share the same to all of their friends.

SELF-LISTENING

Today after talking to my friends in office, got a thought of self-listening, it is what we all have learned from our childhood that when we speak it is to give information to people around, how about making a small change in the above theory? What if someone come and say whatever we speak should be heard by us before anyone listens or understand it? I might be sounding strange but I believe in the fact, as a human it is really important that we should listed what we say before anyone else listens to it.

Let’s try and define self-listening, I strongly believe many of you will not agree to what I said above also I believe people who go in line with above will have their own version of the self-listening right? I can give you my definition for the same and will be happy to hear your definition. As per my definition, I would first like to define SELF: for me self means person’s core believes, core thinking and core intent to living many of you can relate my definition with heart, some will be able to relate this with mind but for me above is related to sole and life which can include any part of human i.e. heart or mind. Now let me try and define LISTENING: it is an art where series or emotions flows in for of words or sound waves which sometimes we can understand most of the time we cannot understand.

 SELF- LISTENING can be defined by above two definition right? So here I go with my definition: series of emotions in form sound waves going to our sole and making us understand the meaning of each emotions/words/wave of sound. Having said that in important question comes up, listening is what is comes into us from outer world, then how to do self-listening?

Answer of above question also comes from our childhood learnings, I remember my father/mother and teachers saying “Think before you speak” I believe the overall intent there was to have self-listening so that we don’t hear anyone around us. Strongest weapon we humans have is not the biggest big range missiles or bio chemical weapons but it is the inner strength we have is “Speak”. Remember one of the strongest person called “Hitler” he was able to control thousands of peoples just by his voice.

There can be many benefits one can think of self-listening, for me the biggest one is: we can avoid fights and conflicts between two people which can intern become a conflict between thousands of people and different countries. I can’t think a bigger benefit of self-listening, I feel whole world will be much beautiful and happier place to live.

Please think around it.

Finding Horizon

Finding Horizon

Have look on people around you and think what you see? In the very starting we see males and females, after some analysis time we get old, young and kids, many of us leaves thinking by this time but few of us continue thinking and then they find rich less rich and poor people, once gain most of us stop thinking but few still continue thinking and guess what they found? They got in the core of it where we just have 2 kind of people 1. Happy and 2. Not happy. In the very starting on thinking we think no one is happy that means everyone is unhappy right?

Is it really true that all are either happy or unhappy? In search of this I got to know about the third kind of people who is at the horizon of happiness and unhappiness, place where being happy or unhappy doesn’t matter, a place where happiness and unhappiness merge with each other, we call this place as Horizon of life. Do we really have a place like that? Do we really have people living their? Can we reach to that place?

Well there are many such questions which will start popping up in core of heart and brain, these and many such kind of questions kept me awake for many nights and kept my mind struck for many days, so I started looking for the answers and what I found was below:

In search of the life horizon I travelled to many places on earth after all the disappointments I thought that place must be outside of earth so I started exploring places outside earth and what I found is the universe, which brings me to define universe, a very easy word to be defined which I found as the toughest word to define. As per the definition universe is everything around us, let me ask you don’t you think whatever around is our heart? We see, listen, feel and speak etc. only what our heart says, right? So this complete universe is nothing but our heart, this gives me a new direction to my search. It gives me a sense of shame that I was searching of the answers from the outside world for something where answers is within us. So if we start asking this question to our heart I am sure we will be able to reach to the place called life horizon and at that place we all be way above happiness and sorrow as a result of this we will way away from any problems. Things which used to keep us happy or move us into sorrow will no more matter to us, I think that is the stage where each one of wanted to reach right?

Think for yourself and life horizon.

We Live Forever

We get birth and that is starting of our life, thereon we never look back, just move on and on and on. Best phase in anyone’s life is the time of Love that phase makes us very happy and put us on a different track. I have come across people saying a very common thing during that phase “Jeena Marna Saath Hai” well reading further you will find many questions which I request you all to answer if possible. Well let me start with my first question; is it possible to die? If you will ask me then I will say no, as I have never seen even a single person dying. I have one more question, is death true? My take will be “Zindagi to bewafa hai ek din thukraagi, Moot Mahbooba hai saath leke jayagi”, person never dies but the attributes shown by one stops and that is how life moves on. We still remember people we lost way back we even remember people whom we never met nor seen them, but we remember them because of their attributes, if what I just said is true then way we says death as the biggest truth? One can look life as a round circle where every phase contributes in the cycle while others think it is a straight line having different slots for each phase of life and death is the end. I will end this with a question, what is truth?

Life with an aim to be a human

Life with an aim to be a human

One of the question for all of us (humans) is to define is life and if we ask this question to people each one of us will have a different answers, to make it more complicated if we ask this question to same set of people at different time you will get different answers, that is strange right?

As I grew up this question kept me busy understanding life, but whenever I asked this question to myself I always got an answer which opens up a new question, “is my life dependent on what is aim of life?” so now to understand like I will have to understand the aim of life that is too complicated and one the answers for life’s definition is “it is complicated”J.

As I was searching for definition of life and later on with the aim of life like anyone else here, I started asking this question to all of my friends and people related to me which made me realize that it not easy for anyone to answer and all of us have this question and all of us are searching for the answer, this thought inspired me to write this article so all of us can share the thoughts around this subject.

One of the thought by one of my very god friend which sounds very logical and realistic to me as in maps to my own thought is:

We all are sent to this world by god with only one notion “help people around you”

To relate to this phenomena I started analyzing my life so far and what I found was amazing. I found that whenever I found myself in any situation where I seek help as I am unable to find a way to move out of that problem after struggling for some time I find someone to help me out and soon I am out of the scenario and started living my life as usual. I found that the person who help me out stays with me for more time (as if he/she wants to make sure I don’t find myself in another problem), at the sad end to it on sometime we get so busy in our respective lives that we just loose connection and after some time we just remember the person in any similar situation(s), this makes me sad but at the same time it gives me sense of happiness that that person might be helping other person in trouble. On the same lines same theory applies when you help someone in trouble and in some time you lose contactL. This raises a bigger question for all of us, how we should live our life? Do we have any correct way? Is there anything we can do make this life worth?

Friends I don’t have answers to most of the above asked questions but what I definitely think is if you get help for someone in any situation we must reply this help by helping someone near us (may or may not be same person), we can do that it is start the wheel and very soon there will be no one in the world who needs help and is left without help.

What if we can’t help a person around us due to some limitations?

I believe passing this information that you can’t help the person is not less than helping the person and at the same time if we can guide the person on how and from where he/she can get help that will be additional sign of you being human and still alive.

Soul Walking

Soul Walking

I always wonder when people says:

“I wish I could fly and reach to my love”

“I wish I can talk to my love one just by closing my eyes”

“I wish I can see my love one moment I want to”

Fact around all these statements: two or more people are at a big distance but wanted to be together.

Question to all: is there anything, any process, any technology which can help in making this a reality?

Possible answers: yes they can use any latest technology like video conferencing, mobile phones etc to talk and see each other.

Well the solution provided is very impressive and very close to what people need (as per above statements), but I still think that is not 100% to what is required by those people. That gives us new direction to think and explain if there exists any other mechanism to the problem.

I believe many years ago, there was a dream which many people used to have, that was to fly in air, if we look today carefully, then we have many different ways to fly and more or less our wish is fulfilled, similarly I can feel a new wish of humankind that is can we travel to another location without carrying the bulky body!! That might sound funny to you but I am talking about soul walking. Now I believe many of us will start thinking about many movies we had seen in past where this topic is there.

I purely believe that we can divide ourselves into two major parts one what we can see and feel called body which is just a cover on top of our soul in the same way we put cloths on top of our body, another interesting about the soul and body is they both coexists and both of them have their own identity and significance. Last but not the least we do have many proofs that soul do exists in the same way body exists.

Since we ate sure that soul do exists so it is also very true that soul can walk (sounds funny again) but if we connect to many people around us we can be sure what I am saying is true, yes guys our soul can walk without needing our body.

That raises a question who we can let our soul walk and do what we wanted to do (I am still referring to above statements). Here is the path to let that happen, first of all we all have to understand that body and soul are two different things and both of them has their own identity, having said that we will also have to start defining what each one can do. Once this separation is completed we can let our soul fly the way we want and that will be the fast mode of communication between two people, but there is a catch to this, since our soul will be allowed to walk and fly (maybe) soul can connect to another soul only.

Keep thinking and let me know your thoughts.

Personal Identity

Personal Identity

Few days back I have got en email from one of my friend where she wanted to explain the importance of having an object or behavior to identify someone. That email really let me feel the importance of defining personal identity, it also let me feel do we really need an object or behavior to identify us? As I always believe nature can give answer to any question, I started looking around for the answer, and below are my findings.

Best start could had been by observing the biggest and one of the most important entity of nature, yes you are correct I am talking about sun, what is the personal identity for sun? Is it the fact that we can see sun every morning in East direction and in the West direction before it disappears? My personal answer was no, as for me the personal identity of sun is, he is the father of our solar system, he is the father of complete mankind, to make it best sun never sun himself did not created this as his personal identity, it is his soul that made us understand what sun is and that is how we know who sun is.

After Sun I did tries getting the same answer from many different natural entities like trees, clouds, air, water etc. and strangely I got the same answer, now it’s the time to get this answer from us, the most intelligent natural species / entity. Below are my observations and examples.

People who know me, they remember me for my jokes, suggestions I give to them when they are in trouble, they associate quotes they can see on my T-shirts etc. I feel a person don’t any tangible object to be there to identify one person, for me if your soul can connect to soul of other person that makes the personal identity of any person. That actually raise a very basic question, how do our soul connect to other soul. To answer this one need to believe in the existence of soul, let me try with few examples.

1.       Does it ever happened, that you come across few strangers around and after have a first round of shake hands (without knowing anyone of those new people) you start believing that one of those can be a good friend of yours and you start talking to him or her?

2.       Does it ever happened, that you wanted to talk to one of your friend and to talk to him/her you pick up your phone and suddenly leave your phone aside and decide that you don’t want to talk anymore and you will talk to your friend after sometime?

3.       One peaceful morning just few minutes after you get off the bed, you get a wave of thought that something will happen bad today and as day progresses you come across something unusual and that make you unhappy?

With my personal experience answer to each of the above question is yes, so that raises next question, how that happens. I don’t know the answer so I let you think about it and let me have your thoughts. Also please do let me know if we really need an object to identify us? I would also be interested in knowing your personal identity.

Thanks

Language Of Love

Everyone and anyone in this world talks about feelings/love/care etc. it wonders to me, what is the language in which one can talk about it? Do we have any language for this?

The language we use (English/Hindi etc) are they sufficient? Are these languages capable of talking about love? Does one really need a language to talk about this?

I know I have raised bit too many questions and that purely because I don’t have answer to any of these. As far as my knowledge about feelings and love, they are language independent i.e any language can be used to express these, but that really raises a question, what will happen if one can’t speak (mum)? Simple answer is he/she can express the feelings, is that correct? No they can still express feelings by using actions which is there to express the feelings, that is really a strange right? This is possible because we can understand what is expressed by actions by other, but is always true?

Can we understand all the actions by anyone around us? I will leave answer to this question for future. I always felt that yes, I can understand feelings from everyone, but we have so many living things around us, they all express love, they all have feelings which they express to us and most of the time we can’t understand that. Few days back I was talking to one of my friend, she was thinking to have a pet dog but she decided not to do that by giving a statement “They get attached to us so much that without us they feel alone and at the end they die” that scared me, how can a dog/animal die due to absence of master! How can a dog be attached to us? Is that the way to express feelings to us? Do your pet really wanted to be with you always and without you they might stop eating and die at the end? Do we understand this way of expressing feelings? If I believe this then we can understand feelings expressed in any way, is that correct? Think again. Have we ever realized the trees, plants flowers also express feelings? Bit strange right? As per my experience plants around us also wants care from us and in absence of which they can die L. Most of us places some or other plan in our home, when we plant them in home we pay some extra attention towards them later on we don’t even look at them and after some time we realizes that, plant is not there, after we ask someone in family the answer we get is “That plan was not growing well and was about to die so we replaced that with new one” we generally think that due to lack of light/water etc that happened, well it that 100% correct? Think that again.

I saw a movie few days back “hachiko” that movie talks about love and care that a animal can have for us. Please share your thoughts on this..

Wavelengths(ƛ) and vibrations(µ)

The best you can relate wavelengths and vibrations is physics right? Well that is very correct these words comes from science only and we all know science makes a significant impact in our life as well, just wanted to throw some light on impact of wavelengths and vibrations.

You must have come across a situation where you come across many unknown people at once and out of that group without evening knowing anything about them, you start your analysis i.e who is best for our friendship and with whom you will never wanted to be friends, correct? Have you ever thought why? Sometime just by looking someone’s snap we start analyzing what kind of person he/she will be, and we never get to know how we can do that just by having a look on a snap. Here comes science into picture, every object emits energy in terms of wavelengths and vibrations, like wise we also do the same, now whenever we meet a similar vibrations/wavelength we gave a positive signals and vice-versa. It goes true while we are doing shopping, before we try things on us we just look on that item and makes an initial decision, don’t you? People tend to justify it by saying it is not of our taste etc.. but at the end of the day it we a because of same principle of physics. Have you ever thought we like just few colors out of millions of colors we have around us? Just by knowing kind of color one likes the most and lease one can predict what kind of person he/she can be, and yes the reason we like only few colors is again because of same old physics. Now since we know the role played by ƛ and µ next thing is the usage of the same so that we can make full use of it.

Everyone is gifted, people don’t open the packet.

Everyone is gifted, people don’t open the packet.

Few days back I came across a statement which after reading made me think, what is the reality behind “Everyone is gifted, people don’t open the packet”. You must have come across people saying things about you which you are not aware of i.g your voice is wonderful. Why it happens that people around us can make out what is good in us and we are unable to understand that? As a fact I know two kinds of person around us. (i) People who knows what is good in that (people who are able to open the packet). (ii) People who don’t know what is best in them. Both the category of people can live happy but people who know good in them are happy from all the directions. Here comes the questions how to know what is good in us? I just know one way to do so, that is by deep self-thinking. I personally feel if we all know the good part of us that can make world to move in positive direction, no one will force you to do something you are not good at and you will be able to grow in the correct direction with 100% energy and strength.

Game of Past and Present

This is the time we need to think and move ahead. I have personally seen many people creating problems in present coz of past. I agree that past can make an impact in present but there has to be a time when one needs to get out of past and start living in present so that happiness can flow in. I have seen many people wanted to move out of past but the people nearby (people we stay with and are a part of our life) really don’t want that to happen and they always brig past in present and that takes our happiness away. I really wanted to people to grow up and let other live with happiness. Sometimes I fail to understand why people interferes in others life? Why just can’t they leave things the way they are when they can’t help it? I strongly believe majority of problems we see in our life is because of things from past impacting present, I am really confused why people do this to life?

Angel Vs Devil

Whenever I see people reacting differently, it raises a question in my mind, why people do that? If same person can react differently then what can be the reason for that? Whenever I ask this question to people around me I get mix of answers pointing towards, “it is human nature”, that raises a new question is that answer to my question? Today morning just thinking about this and came up with a different answer so just wanted to share the same with you all. It seems that we have an Angel and a Devil inside us, at every moment that fight with each other and we react accordingly that is if Angel wins we react in a very good way and when ever Devil wins we react other way. There are set of people I have seen always react in negative way, so as per my thought it’s always devil that wins over angel inside them. I have started a comparative analysis between angel and devil, as per stories we heard in our child age it is always angel who wins over devil but I am thinking on the fact that who should win this battle, as sometimes it is really important for humanity to devil to win and sometimes its other way round. I don’t know if this war between angel and devil is important and required? I also want to know is there a way to live without this war?

Please share your thoughts on this…

ONE NIGHT AT MANIPAL

I was in my MCA when I heard that Manipal Medical College is the best medical college in India, this statement was given by one of my friend, her brother was doing some medical course from Manipal. I never thought that I will ever get a chance to see that place in life, but as a fact life is very unpredictable. The moment comes just after I got married and I went to Sikkim along with my life partner and unfortunately she was not feeling good as she had some bad food in day time by mistake and by same evening she was really in a bad shape so I decided to take medical help, I end up calling our hotel’s reception from where I got to know Manipal is the nearest and best hospital nearby, so we decided to go there, using local transport we entered in MANIPAL.

I reached reception and ask for physician and out of 4 persons none responded at the end I saw a doctor and asked him if he can give me some input after his help I took my wife to emergency room and asked 2 sisters for my next steps, which was to get the file created for new patient. I rushed to registration counter (which was on the other extreme of the hospital), I was able to find a counter on which “NEW registrations” was written but no one was there on the other side of the glass. I approached a boy sitting at counter number 4 and asked if someone will come to counter number 1, his answer was wait someone will come and help you. After waiting for 10 min I was forced to stop a conversation going on between 2 ladies at counter number 3 and one of them told me that I need to stay at counter number 2. And then she came to counter number 2, I asked her I need to register a new patient and she said ok, then she shouted on me and said have you filled the new registration form on which I said have you gave me any form to be filled till now? Then she is replied no and she gave me a form and a pen, after which she continued her leftover talk at counter 3. In less then 1 min I was able to fill the form and then I said “Madam please come I am done with the form” on which she came and took the same from me and started filling an application form on her system’s software, after looking on my handwriting she asked me few questions as in name of patient and my address, and then she said “give me Rs. 10 first” and gave me a tight glance, by then I took Rs. 10 from my pocket and handed over to her. At last I got new file and started running towards other corner of the hospital (Emergency room), the way was so clean that even after using double peace of couth on my face I was able to feel the freshness (I was able to reach my destination and I was alive). Moment I reached there they brought a dead body in the emergency room (“emergency room for dead body ???”) by the time I left my wife and I reached back her condition has deteriorated, I handed over the file to sister and asked her to call some doctor ASAP. Fortunately I was after a long time I was able to see a doctor and it’s the same doctor which we saw the moment we moved in the Hospital (“It was more than 1 Hrs we were in Hospital and hospital and patient was unattended”) doctor had a look on my wife and asked few questions and then asked me bring some medicine from shop, I asked doctor where can I find the shop on which he said near to registration desk (“next corner of the hospital”), I started running towards that corner. Once again conditions was almost same, there were few people at the shop and everyone was talking on mobile (“with lots of smile and laugh”). I waved my hand and handed over slip to that person he took around 10 min to come back to me with all the required medicines and then my wait for someone to come to billing counter starts which again took around 5 min and after payment I started running back. By the time I reached back complete floor was stinking like hell and emergency room was the worst. I handed over the medicine to sister. She use one injection and asked me to wait along with wife on which I asked her (sister) do you people have any other room or place where we can stay, answer was “NO”. and after 5 min my wife started feeling better and then we moved out from that room and moved towards registration counter as I was able to see few sitting desk there. And I asked her to sit there for some time by then I wanted to talk to doctor about other details like by when we can leave from hospital and what all precautions and medicines were supposed to be taken.

After spending close to 3 hrs we were all set to go back to our hotel, and we started moving back to our hotel.

If this is the condition of the best medical hospital in India then where are we moving towards? In recent news papers I read number of medical students will be increased, how about the quality of hospitals?

RELATION WITH PARENTS

We humans are surrounded my relations from all the sides, majority of these are created by us to make us happy. With so many relations we create lines of priorities to separate one from another, but there are some relations for whom we don’t have any line and those relations are not created by us, they are god gifted. Today I want to throw some light on one of the relations, RELATION WITH PARENTS.

We get parents as god gift and they act as our mentors for our life, they tell us the difference between right-wrong, good-bad, we respect them more then god and we are ready to anything for there happiness. Well I have a question here, do we actually do that? One can answer this as “yes” and “no”. Do we actually follow their learning’s in our life? I guess the best answer for this would be yes we follow them but with modifications. We customize the learning as per us and then we follow them in our life, is that correct?

We do many things in our life and go sad or happy with the result of it, the most important part in that is our parents they also go happy and sad with us, but we ignore that in most of the cases. Is this what they deserve?

Once we grow up we starts taking decisions in our life, and the bad side of this is we either don’t include our parents in our decision or we ignore their opinion, we generally say its our life and let us live the way we want to life. There are cases when we children starts treating them as slaves or as burden on us, which I feel this is greatest sin and we should realize it.

In this relation the worst thing that we do is, we do many things in our life which are not only wrong as per them but they are wrong as per us as well but we behave in front of them as if we are the best child in this whole world and we never did anything wrong in our life, and by doing this we create a guilt in us which never goes out from us, I feel we should not maintain any relation just for sake of having a relation but we should maintain a relation because want that relation for us.

By writing this blog I just want to bring few things that we should not do with our parents and by this I don’t want to heart anyone’s feelings.

Moving in n out

Sometime I think what is more important between presence and absence of someone in our life. Although we all need people in our life at every step of our life but at many times we want someone should not come in front, sometimes we don’t want someone to go away from life and sometime we don’t want someone to come in our life. I always get confused in these lines and so writing this such that I can get the comments from you people on the same.

As per my point of view we should take time in understanding a person before we let him/her to enter our life and once that person come in our life he/she is ours forever. On the other hand we can control things like this from one end, i.e ours but what if we made a mistake in understanding the person or after spending some time you realize that both of you cannot move together? That happens in our life everyday and that is the reason people come and go from our lives.

What should happen if someone goes away from your life? Should we have a option left for that person to come back in any form or by any relation? What should happen if after some time you realize that you want that that person should come back in your life? Once again I get confused by all such questions and as a fact I don’t have any answer. I believe once a person goes away from your life or you move away from your life there should not be any way to come/go back.

Movie touching people

We find out many ways to make ourselves happy, watching movies are one way for the same, I am sure we all watches movies either in movie theater of in home. Today after reaching to office me and my friend were feeling bored so we decided to watch a movie in theater and we thought of a movie and moved from office, after reaching to theater we found that due to some technical problems the movie we wanted to see was not to be shown so we asked person sitting in tickets counter to give us 2 tickets for whatever movie is going to start in next 15 min, and he gave us “TOY STORY 3”, movie started and since I never likes toys to much to I was not enjoying the movie to start with, on the other hand my friend used to play with many toys in his childhood age and so he got connected with the movie, during intermission I said “It seems I am over aged for the movie” on which he said NO, after taking few things to eat and drink we came back on our seats to watch the movie. The second half of the movie was very emotional as it was around the facts that when a kid grows he/she stops playing with toys and then he need to decide if he wants to give the toys to someone or just wanted to throw them.

Movie was going on and then I realized a weeping sound, when I looked at my friend I found he was crying, I asked him what happened in reply he said nothing, I didn’t asked him again as I was able to understand the cause of that.

Few interesting questions to ask:

1. Is it true that we will remain kids whatever be our age?
2. We don’t connect to things happening around as, but we get connected to a movie?
3. Is it true to say movies are somewhere from realities only?

STORY OF CURSE AND LOVE

Story of curse and love

We all have seen many mythological movies/ serials and acts and most interesting part of the act is when a saint take some water in his/her hands and after swearing to god says some bad words and throws that water on the person, and then all sorts of problem starts in that persons life, but this all happens in act or movies right? If your answer is yes, then think about it again as I am going to share a story on same lines…

This story starts somewhere around 5 years down the line, there was a boy who was starting his new life by entering into MCA program as his next level of education, he was very sure that he is not going to involve in any girlfriend relation, but god had created a different route for him, and he fall in love with a girl during 2^nd semester of his program, they both were having different family values and as a fact they both were different humans as well. Boy used to care for time and for him even a second was really important, but on the other hand for that girl time was just another item to play with. This was one of many differences between them but still they both were connected in a relation full of feelings called LOVE. Due course of time they started caring for each other and on the other hand sometimes they used to fight, time passed and intensity of fight started increasing and in few days that intensity overshoots the feeling of love and then one fine day they fought of almost complete day and at the end girl was so frustrated that she said “Ja tu kabhi kush nahi rahega, magar to is baat ko kisi ko bata nahi payaga ki tu kush nahi hai” English- you will never be happy and you will never be able to express this to anyone around you. Happiness of boy ended when that girl told him that she is unhappy because of him and as per her that boy never wanted her to be happy. In few days that relation ended with girl getting married to someone else, that boy broken into pieces but was able to recover in few days by knowing that girl is happy in her life.

It was time to move on for both of them, girl was very happy in her life and her life was flying and rocking, but for boy his life was surrounded with that curse which neither boy nor that girl remembered. Happiness used to come closer to boy but used to fly away with wings even before he could even feel it.

Whole point of writing this was to find out that way by which that boy can come out of that curse and I am sure there will be some way to come out of it, can you help that boy?

Waiting for your reply….

Movie Vs Life

Sometimes I think what is the difference between life and a movie, I never got to know the difference, it seems that life also moves the same way a movie goes i.e starting with a happy note, while moving to intermission clouds of sadness moves in and no one is happy at that, people cry and tension everywhere.

Current phase of my life is moving as if I am in mid of intermission as no one is happy around me, my parents are really unhappy. After a perfect start they all were very happy, due course of time happiness melts down to sadness, current situation is so pathetic that it is just sadness and crying all around.

I hope you might have read my last blog, this blog is in continuation with the same, by this I wanted to come up with aftereffects of a drama which is played by few people and made others life hell. Few people came in our life and who comes like angels and goes away from our life with a curse and oceans of pain and frustration.

I hope the actual cause given to humans by god is to make others happy, it is also said by a song “aapne liye jiye to kaya jiye, ey dil to jee zamane ke liye”. But as per my observation we people moved many steps away from our cause now days we are after other peoples happiness, I always see people going un-happy as a result of any other is happy.

I wanted to appeal all of you that start thinking about the fact that why we are here, and what is our aim of life, I am making a small step towards this thinking and hope that you all will join your steps to make this small start into a big one.

Maamla Shadi ka : Marrige

Disclaimer:

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This is based on a real story, narrator changed the names of persons and places in the story. Any similarity will be a coincidence. By this narrator just wanted to come up with change is human values and human thinking.

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I never thought I will be writing something of this kind, as this form of human behavior is present only in movies, but after experiencing this I can always say things like this also exists in real life, well its enough of background let me jump on the story.

This long story starts on 28th May 2010 when few people (Ladki ke Ghar Waale) visited my home to have a talk with me for her daughter. They were supposed to reach my home at 5:00 PM but instead they reached at 10AM. I was in office at that time, my father called me at 6:00PM to confirm where I am, I told him that I will be able to reach at around 7:30PM or may be bit more delay (God started giving the signal from word go). That day traffic was more then expected, although travelling from Gurgaon to Delhi is always full of fun :). I reached home at 7:45PM and then my interview starts, they were 2 and I was all alone to face their questions, moment they saw me they started firing questions like where you work, salary, job timings etc. after 5 min or so I was fed up with them and was feeling like running away from there but one can’t do that, after around 15 min the best time comes when they said they are done with talking to me and now they wanted to go back home and then they will give the update to me, after saying that they somehow handed Rs. 1000/- to me which I didn’t liked as girls father gave money in a “shagan ka lifafa” which was folded like anything.

Wind of happiness started flowing in my house everyone all of a sudden started looking happy, my mother was so excited that she started to look for marriage date and dates for other ceremonies. I bore their happiness by saying “Ladki se mil to lo ek baar, aagar aapko sab kuchtheek lage to jo man main aaye karma”, they decided to visit Mysore (Karnataka India), as per girls parents her exams were on and nest exam was on 2nd June and last was on 12th June so my parents thought since time gap between second last and last exam was 10 days, so they planned to visit Mysore on 3rd that is the day after girls second exam. Everyone in my family was very happy.

3rd of June started on a bad note for me, after I got out from my bed I slipped and my right leg got hurt, but I started my daily preparations for going to office, that day I had to catch my office bus as from that day only my cab was discontinued, so I left my house at 7:15 AM (15 min before time), after I stepped out of my home, I called friend (Anil) who still goes in cab and after talking to him I decided to go along with him only in cab as there was a extra space available. After reaching my normal cab pickup point I started arranging my bag, then I realized that this day going to show some more colors as I just saw that one of my watch was found broken in my bag (I Love all the watches, I am crazy about watches) that was a sad moment but I was not having any alternative for that so I put all my items back in bag and started waiting for my cab to reach and after around 10 min or so cab reached. Cab had just moved around 1KM from my pickup point, I found that my valet was not in my trouser’s pocket and then I started finding that in my bag but it was not there, I asked my cab driver to take the cab back to my pickup point as I thought I might find my valet lying out there but after reaching back I was disappointed and tears come in my eyes. Anil said why don’t I confirm that from my home? As a result of his question I called on my bhabhi’s cell and asked her to find my valet also I told her that I found my watch broken on which she said its ok as you have so many watches, while talking to me she searched all the places where my valet could have been found but she was unable to find it :(, after putting down the phone I started thinking what all was there in the valet, and up to what I was able to recollect, that valet was containing around 6,500 cash, 6 silver coins (coins from Vaishno Devi Mandir), my Citibank debit card, my Citibank credit card , credit card of HDFC bank and some more documents like my driving license etc. I was really upset as nothing had gone right from morning so was talking to my office friends and trying to change my mind but at around 12AM my mother call me and said that they met the girl (Rakhi) and she liked her very much and wanted to now my decision on which I said do whatever you people wanted to do (I know that was rude but my situation was really bad), I wanted to disclose what all happened with me from morning to my mother but I kept my mum shut as I don’t wanted them to be un happy. Then I received call from my father at around 3-3.30 where he confirmed that they said yes for Rakhi. They (parents) were very happy, they have to return from Bangalore on the same day and there train was at 5:00PM from there which they boarded on time. It was a 33 Hr travel from them to reach to Delhi till then this message started flowing and I started hearing a statements like marriage date would be somewhere around 28th June only and I was really up happy with that news but since that date was not confirmed by my parents I was bit relaxed. Mom and dad reached back home and talks started around my taking leaves from office, the duration, and the most important was date(s). One pandit ji from Rakhi’s end came up with date for engagement as 25th June and 28th as marriage and my parents accepted and started with shopping and other arrangements, that was Saturday when they gave me a list of items which I had to buy by that day only, I called up my friend and told him the fact and also asked him to help me in shopping and shopping kicked off. In one single day we spent around Rs 80,000/- in shopping, and arrangements continues on Sunday as well.

Monday was planned shopping for Aditya (my nephew), I reached home a bit early on that day as I went to office via my bike due to the fact that I being to license authority to give a request for my lost license. Moment I entered in my home I heard my mom talking to someone and her voice as not very pleasant, her words confirms me that there is some problem. After she ended the call I asked her but she didn’t told me anything, and after having 1 min talk with my dad they both went downstairs to have a walk, in mean while Bhabhi along with Aditya reached back home and I shared my assumption with her, my words him her as if I pulled up the trigger of a gun and bullet entered in her body. Later I tried again to confirm the same with my mom but was unable to get the facts out, in late evening my father gave us a statement that stop shopping now as he need to arrange some more cash on which I said I have some in my account which can be used on that mom said don’t use that money on this. My assumption was moving in a right direction and for next 3 days we didn’t spent any money in shopping. On Thursday evening my mom asked me to come along with her as she wanted to talk to Rakhi for the first time :), I called her up from my cell and as expected she was not very comfortable talking on which I said we will talk some other time and hung the phone. On Friday there was a small party with my office friends which started after office hours and ended at around 12:00 Night, coz of which I reached home at 1:00 AM, at that time only I realized that next day was Saturday day for last exam, so I send a sms to Rakhi’s friends mobile number as Rakhi was not having any mobile. My message was:

“Message for Rakhi: good luck for tomorrows exam”

And after sending the sms I went to sleep, next morning I got a reply “thanks”. Things again started changing, I got a call from a unknown caller and he said that he is aware of the fact that me and Rakhi were getting engaged and because of which Rakhi was not happy, she don’t wanted to get into this, after asking a lot he disclosed his name as “Rahul”. I without informing this story to my family members I went out of my home and called on Rakhi’s friends mobile and told everything to Rakhi, on which she said she is not aware of this and she don’t know anyone by this name, then I gave her the mobile number from which I got the call and asked her to try and find out who the person is, for doing this she told everything to her parents along with mobile number, her father called up my dad in 30 min and confirmed that that number was with someone called Sanjay and that number was from Noida, having said that they were relaxed. In mean while after meeting one my friend I reached back home and then my dad told me that this number is of Noida so I need to find out if any of my friend did this as a prank, on which I started finding the information over internet and after using many websites and software I conformed that that number was from Karnataka, Bangalore, Mysore. Which Rakhi’s parents excepted by the lave evening, after talking to me and my dad, her father said he will try and find out who that person is and in case he will not be able do so then they will reach out to police to get the further investigation done on which I and my father agrees and asked him to take the required action. Tension started creeping as poison mixes with blood, any how we all slept and Sunday we all started again on the same topic, my father called up her father and asked what is there plan for the day on that? As a reply he said that they know someone in Reliance (as that number was of Reliance mobile) and in next 2 hrs they will be able to find out who the person is and they will update us by 1:00 PM, but they didn’t called us till 4:00, as o asked my dad to called her dad and ask for the update, on which her dad said that they were not able to find the person and now they will file a FIR against that number and will forward the scan copies to us over email. At 8:00PM I had a word with her dad and as per him they got to know who that person is in morning only at around 11:00 PM, after me asking what all actions they took answer as nothing as they thought that was not required. Then I asked for FIR and on that he repeated the same answer, after talking to him for more the 40 min I was able to console him for the FIR and as per him he will do that in next 30 min, but after 30 min he called up my dad again and said they will not file a case against that number as they don’t want to do the same, in the meanwhile I had a long conversation with my dad and mom and our common stand was ask no to them for marriage and to start with say that marriage is postpone for some time as we wanted to solve this problem first, so might think about this in month of November or December. Rakhi’s family gave a positive response on this and they agrees that.

Few Hidden Facts:

First call which comes to my home was done for Rakhi only, but she never agrees to that as she wanted to look clean and clear from all the angels.

By mistake her father gave us the correct name of the person that in Sanjay as the caller which they later on said someone as Jyoti. As a fact that number belongs to Sanjay and he lives in Mysore only.

Rakhi’s family was aware of everything but they always hided everything with us.

After doing a deep dive into this I come up the conclusion that, everything was planned like a movie script but was badly executed as end of this would have been vary dangerous like killing someone or even more then that.

As I always talk about human values:

Wanted to know what kind of value is this?

What make a person to think like this?

Why people like these exists in world?

Do we really need these kind of person?

Should we call these persons as humans?

Change in Values

I am back again to share my thoughts on human values and change in them.

What I feel is values differ from person to person, but there are certain values which are associated to human and not with person. We humans using innovation created many things which can make our life easy and fast, is that 100% true? Today I just want to talk about a specific change which was invented many years back which now is the most important part of our lives, yes I am talking about money as in some piece of paper(s) and coins which we use to buy something and we get the same when we sell some object, this is what is known as trade in very simple words, I just want to are we using money just for trade? If someone will ask this to me then my answer will be no, today we no longer use money to trade items of our use, but we have started trading our lives as well with and for money. If I ask you, if I am ready to give you some good money can you kill someone for me? First question I will get from you will be how much will I give you and after a given value you will say yes, is money so important? Can I buy someone’s life with money? I guess no, then how can we think of killing someone just for money!! Well as of today I want to talk about a different aspect of money that is money replacing our relations as well? I don’t want to come to any conclusion at this point of that as I need your help for the same. As per my personal experience I have seen changing relation coz of money I can think of some very correct lines “Baapu Bada Na Bhayiya Sabasa Bada Rupiyaa” don’t want to heart anyone’s feeling but it is going as fact now days. People are ready to leave parents/ family/ loved ones just for money. After talking to many of my friends money is no longer just a requirement for us, it is a necessity. We humans are have changed our lifestyle and started acting as a machine which can just generate money and lost basic property coz of which we are known as humans that is emotions. I have come across people from all parts of globe and found no one is actually happy because of this change. I want a loud question are we doing anything to change this? Just a small comparison, from 50 years down the line (just moving to a generation up) percentage of parents living alone were 1-5%, if I compare it with today it is between 35-50%, again a questions for you people is this fare? I have heard people saying to parents you live there and I will give you money on a regular basis! In general family with 2-3 kids starts thinking on who will take care of parents as their parents approaching 60 (Retirement year), they will start dividing the responsibilities as they (parents) will be their responsibility. I have also come across parents going for job even after 60 just for money, is that correct? If you will ask them they will give you a sweet answer “We/I do it not for money but to invest time” a statement to hide their biggest fear, what will happen if child will ask them they can’t take care of them. I know I can’t stop this but through this I want to convey a small message that is please don’t do this. I strongly condemn use of money against emotions.


At the end just make this “Baapu Bada Na Bhayiya Sabasa Bada Rupiyaa” false and start in a direction where importance of money should be well defined in life.